Friday, May 20, 2011

The Alpha Male

Here are a couple of posts about one of my favorite topics: relationships.

1. My two responses in a thread of dialogue on Facebook about relationships to answer a question posed on the page of a FB friend, "What I learned from my last relationship . . . "

That I prefer the straight up "alpha" male, who will be most deserving and appreciative of who I am as a woman, to the "beta" type who pretends to be a "nice guy" and "safe" but is inwardly jealous and passive-aggressive. I'd prefer to be married to the former for a day than to the latter for 50 years; I want a man who is truly confident and plan to marry at the "front line" of culture. Also, to always "date yourself."

Also, to not avoid disagreement and that sort of thing too much for the sake of keeping things stable. It's important to have it out if need be, but in a responsible and mature way. Too much decorum is never good. It's best to keep it real. It's best that a man always be a little "afraid" in the sense that -------- fears --------, and my next man will be from day one. I love reading the bios explaining that he knows she'd "kick his a--" if he ever did this or that, like cheating.

Response: I like your honesty, Riche. You definitely know what you want!

2. Reprint of my review of my all-time favorite dating manual, The Alpha Male, on Amazon

14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars The Best Match, April 19, 2009
Riche Richardson (Ithaca, New York) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Alpha Male: Who They Are, How They Think, What They Want, How To Attract, Meet, Marry & Train One (Paperback)

I enjoy reading in the genre on relationships, including all the recent classics, and have read tons of books over the past few years, but this is the book that has best connected with me and inspired me thus far. It fits best with who I am and have always been. The "type" of man with whom one ends up needs to be taken seriously, for he can shape and define one's quality of life in so many ways, and the lives of any children one has with him. I feel that I am in the best and most mature position that I've ever been in when it comes to making choices about relationships and am able to make them with 20-20 vision. Every woman gets to this position in life at a certain point, sooner or later, and I'm glad that in my case it's sooner. I don't agree with the theories that suggest that an alpha woman is best off with a beta man, and this book certainly clarifies why that's not true. For the alpha guy will best appreciate-and deserve-the talents that the alpha female has to offer-not only as a professional, but also in terms of the classic art of being a woman. I like this book and it provides frameworks for what I've meant since I was 17, in saying that I will only marry a "man for all seasons," or even nowadays, in my resolve that I will only "marry at the front line of culture." The "beta" type of guy can be bad news not only personally, but also professionally, and I try my best never to deal with him. His jealousy, his insecurity, his pettiness, his narcissism, are almost always self-evident. And he's usually the one trying to criticize the alpha types. Spiritually and socially, it's best to keep one's standards high and to hold out for the very best. As a scholar, I theorize masculinity and femininity, but in the end, this is how it all comes home for me.

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